- Jennifer Pan’s Revenge, and related: Tragedy of ‘golden daughter’ resonates with Asian immigrant children
I think I’ve mentioned this before, but I used to hide my report cards in high school; they were quite often bad, or bad enough. My parents didn’t know which day the report cards came out, so I would ask my sister to hide her perfect straight-A report cards too. She always did it for me even though it meant she got zero pats on the back for her effort. Got me some extra months though of being not in-trouble. :D Not that I ever wanted to kill anyone. And my parents were softies compared to some other parents.
- 35 Bill Cosby Accusers Speak Out
- CDC warning: Stop hugging and kissing your chickens
The headline sort of cracked me up. American chicken flu or SARS next?
- No Time to Be Nice at Work
Robert M. Sapolsky, a Stanford professor and the author of “Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers,” argues that when people experience intermittent stressors like incivility for too long or too often, their immune systems pay the price. We also may experience major health problems, including cardiovascular disease, cancer, diabetes and ulcers.
- Masters of Love
It turns out kindness and civility aren’t just important at work; it helps make a happy marriage too, and the lack makes for an unhappy marriage or divorce.
There are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. They know that they have to exercise it to keep it in shape. They know, in other words, that a good relationship requires sustained hard work.
That’s a good explanation of the whole “relationships take work” trope, I think.